偶遇之人

Unexpected Friends

 

我在歐洲參加了不少由當地旅行社搞的即日團,與十多個陌生人擠在旅遊巴上,趕景點、爭位影相,親密相對十多小時後,此世多數永不再見—除了葡萄牙Sintra團認識的Wendy。

 

 

Sintra團由里斯本出發,參觀Palace of Queluz,重頭戲是佩納宮。

我在這個團終於碰上亞裔團友(以往團友多為白人),他們是一對日本夫婦,與一位定居加拿大的香港女子Wendy。

 

日本夫婦早已退休,正結伴環遊世界,日本丈夫很喜歡攝影,永遠機不離手,當他發現我偷影他時,立即舉機偷拍我還擊,是一位很有趣的老先生。

 

日本太太即使出門遠遊,臉上妝容也是一絲不苟,不過面對鏡頭很僵硬,初時她俾面企定定望鏡頭,後來乾脆逃走了。

 

 

還有定居加拿大的香港女子Wendy,我與Wendy的相遇真是一段奇緣啊~

 

佩納宮的鮮黃外牆很漂亮,很適合作照片的背景,Wendy瞥到我替日本夫婦拍的靚相後,主動要我幫她拍照,她雖然快退休,但仍有一頭烏頭短髮,仍會像個孩子一樣,興高采烈地跑在鏡頭前擺pose,但那份童心只能維持幾秒,很快又回復成人式的僵硬笑容。

 

我偷拍了Wendy一張相,鏡頭中的她很憂鬱,身處瑰麗皇宮內,眼中卻滿載愁緒,心思飄得遠遠;我向她打招呼,她回過頭來,臉上立即堆滿笑容,上一秒的愁思忽然消失,一愁一喜的切換速度極快。

 

是什麼令她憂愁?是什麼令她能繼續笑着?

 

 

那天的午餐在佩納宮鄰近的小鎮,小鎮的紀念品便宜又漂亮,繡花巾、彩繪瓷、明信片件件價廉物美,我正想掏錢買,摸摸口袋,才發現自己忘了帶銀包出門,幸好即日團包車包食,手上只有相機手機,無錢就影多幾張相片啦~

 

在返回里斯本的車程上,Wendy問我:「晚飯在哪裏吃?」

我老實回答:「不知道耶,原來我忘帶銀包出門了。」

Wendy很吃驚:「妳咁都得!?」

我無奈地笑着攤手。

Wendy嘆了口氣,說:「要不要一齊食?我請妳食飯!」

我說:「好呀,謝謝!」

 

然後我們真的去了Rossio廣場的餐廳吃飯。

我前幾天才在Rossio廣場遇劫,幸好無財物損失,這晚我將背包揹在胸前攬到實,一路平安。

 

到了餐廳,我拿了手機,放下背包,就上洗手間了。

在洗手間時我先識驚:我與Wendy才第一次見面,幾乎等同陌生人,如果Wendy拿走我的背包離開/放東西入我的背包,我也追不回/惹上麻煩;幸好上完洗手間後,仍見Wendy與我的背包安坐餐廳,世上不是只有壞人。

 

 

Wendy在香港出生,畢業後只拎一隻箱子,就去加拿大投靠姐姐,由零開始學英文、學駕車、考專業試……

她中英俱佳,我也終於能說廣東話了,好開心!

 

我們坐在Rossio廣場的扒手窩,在喧鬧的葡國夜市中,一邊吃着黑漆漆卻鮮甜無比的墨汁炒飯,一邊聽Wendy說着她的戀愛故事……

 

Wendy未婚無子女,目前有兩位對象,兩位都是白人,年紀也與Wendy差不多。

一位是鄰居,是個IT宅男,Wendy似乎很喜歡他,鄰居男對Wendy也有好感,但Wendy嫌鄰居男太內向被動,目前是膠着狀態。

 

另一位是同事,Wendy在葡國期間,同事男不停傳來甜蜜短訊,看得Wendy樂滋滋,同事男很會逗Wendy開心。

 

 

去旅行果然大開眼界,這個世界真係乜人都有,什麼是戀愛?什麼是婚姻?什麼是多元關係?什麼是高齡剩女、什麼是高齡剩男?

人為什麼一定要結婚、一定要生仔?為什麼剩女剩男就等於失敗?

 

 

香港的價值仍然很傳統、太苛刻,容不下差異,很令人窒息,三十歲前要結婚,生仔前要結婚,結婚前要買樓,婚姻只能是一男一女,同性戀等於成世被歧視,這些都是「正常的」主流價值,做不到無人敢公開踩,只會一直被可憐、被同情,大環境令每個人都可以認為偏離主流的人是失敗者,進而令偏離主流的人也容易有自己是失敗者的錯覺,無心戀戰,無力再愛,才最可悲。

 

 

如果Wendy在香港,大概被標籤為「高齡剩女」,這絕不是一個正面的分類,Wendy的愛很充溢,連我這個素未謀面的大頭蝦也盛情款待(最後還送我五歐搭船,令我不用游水回家:)

她的憂鬱也許只是還未遇上能令她傾心去愛、對方亦能以同等的愛來回饋的對象,人生很漫長,一日未死,轉角就是愛;而她的笑臉,來自她在異地紮根的堅韌,不論順境逆境仍能笑,是氣魄!

 

 

 

I have joined lots of local one-day tour in Europe. It was quite an interesting experience to squeeze into a tour van with 10+ strangers, to rush to tourists spots and to fight for a good view to take photo. The people I met in the tours probably won’t meet again in the rest of my life after an intimacy packed 10+ hours, except Wendy who I met in the Sintra tour.

 

 

The Sintra tour departed from Lisbon and visiting Palace of Queluz and Pena Palace.

I met Asian tour buddy at last! (Mostly Whites joined the local tours) They are a Japanese couple and a Hong Kong lady who lived in Canada.

 

The Japanese couple are traveling the world after they have retired. The husband loves to take photos. He hold up his camera and shot me immediately when he discovered I was snapshotting him. He is a funny gentleman.

 

The Japanese wife still keep a detail fine make up even on travelling, awesome. But she was quite nervous before the camera. At first she would stood still for the picture but she would run away later.

 

Wendy was born in Hong Kong but lived in Canada. It was an interesting story of how Wendy and I met~

 

The bright yellow wall of Pena Palace was prefect for a shooting background. Wendy asked me if I could take some photos for her after she saw the beautiful portraits I took for the Japanese couple.

Her hair was still shinning black even she was in an age about to retire. She would still smile like a child before the camera but that kid-like smile only last for a few seconds and back into a stiff adult smile.

 

I snapshot a photo of Wendy. She was sad in the beautiful Pena Palace. Her eyes was full of melancholy and her thoughts flew away far.

I called her and she turn back and greet me in smile. The melancholy just disappeared. The switching speed of sad and happy was super fast.

 

What made her sad? And what made her keep smiling?

 

 

We had lunch in the little town near Pena Palace. There were lots of cheap and beautiful laced handkerchief, color ceramics and postcards. I was going to take out my wallet and pay and surprisingly discovered that I forget to bring my wallet out…

I was lucky that the tour include all the bus and food. So I just kept on taking LOTS of photos because I only had my camera and phone.

 

 

On the way back to Lisbon, Wendy asked me, ‘Where are you going to have your dinner?’

I said honestly, ‘I have no idea, I just find out I forget to bring my wallet with me,’

Wendy was surprised, ‘What!?’

I just laugh.

Wendy sighed and said, ‘Do you want to join me for dinner?’

I said, ‘That would be wonderful! Thanks!’

 

 

We then went to Rossio Square to have dinner.

I was pickpocketed in Rossio Square a few days ago and lucky I lost nothing. I hold my bag tight and nothing happen that night.

 

I brought my mobile and leave my bag in the restaurant and went to toilet.

I started to worry when I got into the toilet: Wendy and I just met today and we were barely stranger. If Wendy took my bag and leave/put something into my bag, I couldn’t chase back/got into trouble.

 

It was good to see Wendy and my bag was safely sitting in the restaurant.

 

There are not only bad guys in this world.

 

 

Wendy was born in Hong Kong. She just carried a suitcase and went to Canada to find her sister and looking for a new life. She started to learn Canadian English, to learn driving, to get certificates…

And her English and Chinese are good. I was happy to speak Cantonese again!

 

We were sitting in the thieves’s nest in Rossio Square and eating the sweet black cuttlefish rice and listening to Wendy’s romantic story in the busy noisy Lisbon night market…

 

Wendy was signal with no kids. She had 2 admirers and they are both whites and in a similar age with Wendy.

 

Admirer One is an IT guy and lived next to Wendy. Wendy seems to like him a lot and the IT guy like Wendy too. But the IT guy was too passive so their relationship was in a stucking mode.

 

Admirer Two is Wendy’s colleague. The colleague guy keep sending sweet messages to Wendy even she was in Portugal. Wendy was very happy to receive those lovely messages and seems the colleague guy knew how to make Wendy happy.

 

 

I see a lot during traveling. There really are every types of people on Earth. What is love? What is marriage? What is a multi relationship? What is signal underdog?

Why do people have to get marry? Why do people have to have kids? Why do ‘single and old’= failure?

 

Norms in Hong Kong is still very conservative, tradition and harsh. It made people suffocate. Differences are not tolerant.

Get marry before 30. Pregnant after marry. Buying an apartment before getting marry. Marriage can only be 1 man and 1 woman. Being gay is doomed.

These are all ‘normal’ mainstream value. No one dare to insult the deviants. But the deviants would be pitied forever. The big environment enable everyone admit the deviants are losers. And the deviants would easy to have a false illusion that they were losers.

Not capable to love would be the most pathetic thing.

 

 

Wendy would probably be label as ‘signal old underdog’ which was definitely not a good labelling if she was in Hong Kong.

Wendy has a lot of love. She treat a naïve stranger like me for a big feast and even gave me 5 Euros for the ferry tickets back home.

Her sadness may come from she hasn’t met someone who is worth to love and love her back. Life is full of surprise. Love would just sudden come out in the next corner.

Her smiles may come from her toughness in re-location in a foreign country. It’s a courage to keep smiling no matter in fortune or misfortune!

鬱Melancholy
鬱Melancholy
佩納宮的黃牆是好背景The yellow wall of Pena Palace is a good background
佩納宮的黃牆是好背景The yellow wall of Pena Palace is a good background
3種態度 3attitudes
3種態度 3attitudes
生氣了got angry
生氣了got angry
日本太太Lady from Japan
日本太太Lady from Japan
日本夫婦Japanese couple
日本夫婦Japanese couple
鮮甜黑墨魚汁飯!Fresh sweet black cuttlefish rice!
鮮甜黑墨魚汁飯!Fresh sweet black cuttlefish rice!