Lisbon CS Host Angela & Kico 

 

好開心遇到Angela與Kico,他們是我在里斯本的CS Host,我們一見如故,真是相逢恨晚啊~

 

我在愛丁堡機場睡了一晚後,坐清晨機去葡萄牙,極度睡眠不足、暈下暈下來到里斯本,一落機就見到簡體中文的樓盤廣告,太強了……

 

非常感謝Kico開車來機場接我回家,我到家後即時睡死了,醒來已是晚飯時間,Angela與Kico早已煮好滿桌佳餚,貼心到令我眼濕濕,明明是第一次見面,卻關懷如家人,有幸遇上他們,真的好感動!

 

他們的家在里斯本對面的小島,出入城市靠渡輪(三十分鐘、班次頻密),或駕車橫跨大橋。

家在二樓,樓底極高,接近三米,每間房都有透光窗,每朝早早就迎來晨光第一線;露台更有遮光門,還有後花園;近城市又能種菜,建築古雅又實用,是個非常漂亮的家。

 

Angela是上門補習老師,一周開工三日,平時照顧狗、煮飯與種菜,她熱愛自然,又會畫曼陀羅;她自幼與祖輩住在鄉下,學會種植技巧,她的祖輩喜愛中國文化,Angela也對中國文化很有興趣。

 

Kico開首已毫不避嫌地分享自己的故事,他是過氣黑幫老大,少年時壞事幹盡,後來遇到Angela,改變了他的一生;有次Kico失手被抓,幸好官判守行為,之後幾年努力洗心革面,如今他是外派到歐洲各國的建築工人,並在家種菜,與大富大貧、劈人見血的前半生截然不同。

 

其實Kico是我第一個真實面對的(前)「黑幫」,第一日他就開門見山地分享自己的風雨故事,初時我也不知該給什麼反應,我印象中的黑幫總是全身畫滿紋身的「公仔佬」,粗聲粗氣,接輒開打,若見如此人士,我必兜路走;但我眼前的Kico完全打破了我腦中既有的黑幫形象:粗眉大眼中見些許頑皮,對Angela一往情深得戇直可愛,我一時也不知如何跟這位「黑幫大哥」相處。

 

一日晚飯後,我們聊起功夫,我爸酷愛詠春太極,我少時被逼學了皮毛功夫;我見Kico談得高興,就請他放鬆雙手,毫不帶力地推拳過來,班門弄斧地一起練習黐手。

其實我真的完全不算識打詠春,但兩圈過後,Kico打得不亦樂乎,他也真的守約不加勁道;興致來了的Kico還示範擂台式打拳,打拳我就不曉了,我與Angela笑着做觀眾。

 

我與Kico「比武切磋」後,發現「黑幫大哥」也是大男孩,「黑幫」一如你我,也是凡人;去過旅行,見多了人,才醒悟自己一直載着好多副有色眼鏡,不停用自以為是的準則去量度他人,既歧視了別人,也局限了自己,以後還真要多多警覺呢。

 

 

Angela與Kico三十出頭,感情超好,Kico時常一臉深情的望着Angela,真是愛心四圍飛;Angela含羞答答地膘腆笑,真是甜蜜滿溢啊~

他們還有兩個狗家人,兩隻小狗也是可愛傻氣,一家四口樂也融融。

 

雖然Kico與Angela早以夫妻自居,但他們未結婚,也不打算結婚,Angela說:「我們的愛不用一張紙承認。」

Kico也認同:「結不結婚我也愛她呀。」

婚姻制度在歐洲備受質欵,非婚生孩子數目大增,對來自推崇婚姻/家庭制的亞洲的我,也令我反思婚姻制度。

 

 

說回上圖,我在寒風中瑟縮了兩小時完成,畫得滿意比什麼都重要;)

 

Angela與Kico的後院有一小片菜園,他們開田種菜,引入肥蚯蚓翻土,又自製廚餘分解裝置,還有火箭爐;我在香港工作時,常常要跑入田野、衝進自然,在異鄉重遇火箭爐、談着魚菜共生,真的好熟悉、好有共鳴啊!!

 

Angela神情嚴厲地除草,Kico則一派輕鬆地挑豆子,我先用木顏色打草稿,然後Angela趕着去補習,先離開了;然後Kico見我畫完草稿,也離席了;最後只剩我一個對着這個空鏡,努力畫畫畫;主體人物有打草稿,其餘花花草草已經畫到無氣,草稿也懶得打,直接畫,有時水彩未乾,顏色混在一塊,我心裏暗叫救命,誰知乾透後,顏色互相滲透,別有一番清麗。

畫畫果然無分對錯,畫得開心就好了;))

 

晚上Angela回家後,她看着畫,笑着細數畫中植物:「這是紅菜頭、這是香草……我能認出這是我的菜園啊!」

就是這種共鳴最難得了,我一直覺得畫要與人連繫才好,Angela從畫中看到她的菜園,我的畫能令人與物共鳴,好開心!

Kico一如以往,看見Angela開心,佢就開心:)

 

 

一日吃完午飯後,我們聊起「也無風雨也無晴」(蘇軾‧定風波),

我說:「這是中國獨有的哲學觀,風雨喻愁緒,晴喻歡愉,詩人最嚮往的是……」

Kico搶答:「是快樂!」

我說:「其實詩人最嚮往是『不愁不喜』、跡近『無』的境界。」

Kico拉長了臉:「怎麼會呢?快樂一定好過悲傷呀。」

Angela正巧經過,說:「『無』才是道家追求的境界啊。」

Kico即說:「喔,那好,那我也覺得『無』比較好了。」

 

這真是個有趣的討論,我從沒想過西人竟然對道家思想有興趣,Angela也真的明白『無』,Kico的「快樂好過悲傷」非常西式直白,他的「老婆大人說什麼就是什麼」也痴心得可愛,遠在葡國都能討論宋詞,正呀~

 

 

歐洲盛行大麻,我是不煙不酒,無吸食過大麻,但在里斯本,卻誤打誤撞的「吸」了大麻。

Angela與Kico也是不煙不酒,但喜歡吸大麻花粉,Angela說大麻花粉比較便宜,他們一日大概吸三至四次,吸食方法與香煙差不多—先燒、後吸。

午後,我們在起居室聊天,Angela很順手地打開大窗,點起煙吸着,剛巧一陣風吹入室,Angela的煙吹到了我身上,我一吸,即覺置身花蕊中,千萬花粉夥粒迎面襲來,我本有鼻敏感,即時出現過敏反應,不停咳漱+流鼻水+流眼淚;Angela立即滅了煙,着我用水沖一下,我快快衝入洗手間,不停洗面,洗了十多分鐘,過敏反應才緩下來。

 

荷蘭CS Host Matt說大麻蛋糕好好食,不過藥效的發揮時間比大麻煙慢;另一位荷蘭CS Host Anousja一聽我從未試過吸食大麻,立即起身,說要馬上點煙讓我嚐嚐,但當時已是深夜,輸給睡魔的我,選擇發夢多於見幻覺;立陶宛首都維爾紐斯的CS Host Egle吸大麻多年,她說吸大麻後會看見幻覺;CS Host Angela則說他們吸的大葉花粉無幻覺,只令人放鬆;誤打誤撞「吸」了大麻花粉二手煙的我,看不見幻覺,也感不到放鬆,只覺得窒息(被眼淚鼻涕嗆),不同人果然有不同體驗啊……

 

 

畫畫、綠色生活、功夫、中國文化、大麻、教育、婚姻……

我與Angela、Kico總有數不完的話題,我真的很開心能在里斯本遇上他們,希望未來能再見!

 

 

 

I am so happy to meet Angela and Kico. They were my CS Host in Lisbon. We were just like old friends when we first met~

 

I stayed in Edinburgh airport for a night and caught a flight to Lisbon on early morning. I was so tired when I got to Lisbon. And I saw a property ad written in simplify Chinese when I arrived in Lisbon airport, wow…

 

I owned a big thank you to Kico who drove to airport and picked me up. I went straight to bed and slept dead when I got to their home. It was already dinner time when I woke up. Angela and Kico prepared a full feast on dinner table. They were so sweet and my eyes were wet. They looked after me like family although we just first met. I was so lucky to meet them!

 

They were living on a small island near Lisbon. I could take a ferry (30 minutes per ride, high frequency) or drive through the bridge.

Their home was on first floor with a tall ceiling which near 3 meters. ‘Ceiling windows’ were installed in every room. Morning sunshine shone into the room everyday. Shading door was on the balcony and a little garden behind the apartment building.

It was near the city but still had space to grow vegetables, the building was elegant classic and practical. It was a very beautiful home.

 

Angela was a tutorial teacher and she worked about 3 days per week. She would look after the dogs and the plants and cook in her free time. She loves nature and drawing Mandala. She was living with her grandparents in the country when she was a kid and learn how to plant. Angela and her grandparents had a great interest on Chinese culture.

 

Kico shared his story with me openly on the first day. He was an ex-gangster and did all the bad things when he was young. His life was changed when he met Angela. Kico was caught by police and was judged observe behaviour. He then made a great effort to change his life and he was a construction worker who worked in every countries in Europe. He would look after the plants when he was at home. He was living a different life compare to his youth rich-in-day-poor-at-night and fighting life.

 

Kico was the first (ex) ‘gangster’ I met face to face. I had no idea what reaction should I make when I first heard his story on the first day.

The gangster in my mind are some ‘Cartoon Man’ who was full of tattoo, rude and fight a lot. I would definitely hide away if I met those people.

But the (ex) ‘gangster’ Kico in front me broke all my stereotype of a gangster: naughtiness was hide in his big eyes and warm to see his deep love to Angela.

I didn’t know how to get along with this ‘gangster’ at first.

 

We were talking about kung fu after dinner one night. My dad loves Wing Chun and Tai Chi and I (was forced to) learn some kung fu for beginner when I was young.

Kico had a great interest in kung fu so I asked him to relax his hands and push the fists towards me without strength.  

Actually I really didn’t know Wing Chun but Kico seems playing very happy. He really didn’t put power on his fists.

He was so happy that he even demonstrated some boxing techniques. I was a total outsider on boxing so Angela and me were just laughing and be audiences.

 

I found out that ‘gangster’ was a big boy after Kico and I ‘fight’. ‘Gangsters’ were ordinary people like you and me.

I discovered that I was a bias person after I met so many different people on traveling. I always use my measurement to measure other people. And that bias people and limit myself. I should beware from now on.

 

 

Angela and Kico were in their 30’ and in a sweet relationship.

Some lovely red hearts were always flying all around when Kico looked at Angela in a sweet gaze.

Sweet honey were always falling all around when Angela would just smiled shyly to Kico.

Such a pair of darling love birds~

And they have 2 dogs as family members. Those 2 little dogs were lovely too. They made up a Happy Four.

 

Angela and Kico hadn’t married and had no plan to get marry although they already treat the other as husband and wife.

Angela said, ‘Our love don’t need a piece of paper to prove,’

Kico agreed, ‘I love her the same no matter marry or not,’

The marriage system was highly questioned in Europe. Kids from a non-marry relationship rise every year. I rethink a lot on marriage, especially I came from Asia which worship marriage and family system.

 

 

And about the above picture, I finished it after 2 hours shivering in cold winds. But it’s worth to finish a satisfy picture;)

 

Angela and Kico had a little garden behind their apartment building. They plant some vegetables in the garden. And bought some earthworms to dig the soil. And self-made kitchen decompose installation. And a rocket stove.

I had to visit farms and nature a lot when I worked in Hong Kong. I met those rocket stove and speaking about fish-vege-cohabit in a foreign country again. It just made me felt so familiar and so resonance!!

 

Angela was weeding in a serious look. Kico was sorting beans relaxingly.

I used color pencils to make the sketch first. Then Angela leave because she had to rush to her tutorial class. Then Kico went away because he saw me finished his sketch. And I was left to this empty set and draw, draw, draw.

I sketched the main characters first before I color them. I was so tired (and cold) when I get to those flowery background so I just draw them out without sketch.

The color would mix together when they didn’t dry. I was so worry but they became so pretty when they blend together after drying.

There is no right or wrong on art, just make some fun in drawing is fine;))

 

Angela looked at the picture with smile after she got back home at night, ‘These are beetroot, those are spices… I can recognise that is my garden!’

This resonance is the most valuable. I always believe it would be best for the paintings to connect with people. Angela saw her garden through the picture and I was glad that my drawing connect her with something she familiar.

Kico was like always. He was happy to see Angela happy:)

 

 

We were talking about ‘no wind no rain no sunshine’ in ‘Settling’ by Su Shu

I said, ‘This is a Chinese unique philosophy. Wind and rain is sadness; sunshine is happiness. And the poet yearns of…’

Kico quickly answer, ‘Happiness!’

I said, ‘The poet is yearning for “non happy non sad”, a state near “emptiness”,’

Kico was disappointed, ‘How can that be? Happiness is better than sadness,’

Angela walked pass and said, ‘“emptiness” is a state yearning by Taoists,’

Kico said immediately, ‘Oh, Okay, and I think “emptiness” is better now,’

 

That was a very interesting discussion. I never thought the Europeans interested in Taoism. Angela really knew “emptiness”. Kico’s ‘Happiness is better than sadness’ was a typical western straight-forward. And it was lovely to see his ‘My wife is always right’ philosophy.

It was so great to discuss Song Ci in Portugal~

 

 

Weed was very popular in Europe. I don’t drink or smoke and never tried weed. But I was smoked in weed accidentally in Lisbon.

 

Angela and Kico didn’t smoke but they smoke the weed pollen. Angela said weed pollen is cheaper. They usually smoked 3 to 4 times a day. Smoking weed pollen is similar to smoking, first burn then smoke in.

 

We were chatting in the living room after lunch one day. Angela opened the window and smoke her weed pollen causally. A wind blow in suddenly. The smoke blow towards me. I smoked in accidentally and felt like I was fallen into a flower core and was attacked by millions of pollens. I have nose allergies and the allergic reactions came immediately. I couldn’t stop coughing+running nose+tearing.

Angela extinguished her weed pollen immediately and suggested me to wash my face.

I rushed to the toilet and keep washing for 10 minutes. The allergic reactions slowly calm down.

 

My CS Host Matt in Netherland said the weed cake tasted good but the reaction came slower than the seed smoke.

Another Netherland CS Host Anousja once knew I hadn’t try weed before and she got up immediately and want to prepare weed for me to try. But it was late at night and I was so sleepy. I lost my attempt to experience the illusions to dreaming.

Egle was my CS Host in Vilnius the capital of Lithuania. She smoked weed for years. She said she would have illusion after smoking weed.

Angela said they did NOT have illusions after smoking weed pollens and they just made people relax.

I smoked in weed pollens accidentally but I didn’t see any illusion or felt relax. I was SUFFOCATED (by my tears and snivel).

Different people really have different experience…

 

 

Painting, green life, kung fu, Chinese culture, weed, education, marriage…

Angela, Kico and I always had countless topics. I am really happy and fortune to meet them in Lisbon and really hope to see them again in the future!

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自家種南瓜!home grow pumpkin!
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