Dubai CS Host Bouchra
杜拜是阿聯酋最熱鬧的城市，也是我在歐洲的最後一站，CS Host Bouchra獨居靚屋，感謝她的招待，Bouchra是我最後一位歐洲Host，而我碰巧是Bouchra的第一位梳化客，我的最終，是Bouchra的最初，一始一終，一頭一尾，剛剛畫成一圓，真是完美句號啦。
Dubai is the busiest city in UAE. And it is my last stop in Europe.
My Dubai CS Host is Bouchra. She was living alone in a nice apartment in Dubai. Thanks for her hosting!
Bouchra is my last host in Europe and I was Bouchra’s first CS guest! My last is her beginning. What a prefect coincident!
Bouchra is a Morocco beauty and a faithful Muslim. She is a genius with high IQ. She is very smart and a fast learner. Not just I think she is smart and her BOSS thinks so too! The boss hires her from Morocco to Dubai, with housing!
Bouchra is the assistant to the CFO in a big company. She tidy up data and made into a report for the boss to review.
We go out sight-seeing in Bouchra’s car and we talk.
Bouchra has been in Dubai for one and a half year now. She likes Dubai, ‘Morocco and UAE are both Muslim country. We both use Arab and with similar custom,’
Bouchra is the eldest in family. She has one younger brother and one younger sister. Muslim is a Patriarchy society.
She said, ‘Our surname follow our father’s surname and my brother is the only son in my family. He has a high pressure on getting marry and have kids…’
I can see lots of tall buildings when I looked out the car window.
As for Bouchra, (of course) she has pressure to get marry soon. And she has to attend an arranged ‘Dating-for-marry’ but she doesn’t HAVE to marry the ‘dating guy’ if she doesn’t like him.
Bouchra is an independent strong woman in my eyes: she can drive; she has a decent job with good pay. But she said with yearning, ‘I hope to get marry soon. I am stupid. I NEED a man to guide me. And I want to have kids too～’
I am very surprised. I have no idea why Bouchra thinks she is ‘stupid’ and even ‘NEED A MAN TO GUIDE’ while she is smartly driving her car, going to places she wants to go by her own. She is far from home and working in a foreign country by herself. She is smart, adaptable and patience.
I ask again, ‘You have a job, an apartment and MONEY! Why do you HAVE TO marry?’
Bouchra says, ‘I want to have kids～it’s prefect if my husband is 10 years older than me～’
Ummmm, sperm can be bought in a sperm bank. With any race and DNA you can choose from…
But if a husband (if he is willing) can share the responsibility to raise a child. That’s good…
Bouchra’s ‘Husband lead wife’ maybe just a common expression in Muslim world. The husbands may not be in totally control in real practice. I hope Bouchra has a happy and respective marriage!
(Please excuse for my off-topic. Lugu Lake in China is a Matriarchal society. They have a very different understanding on Fertility and Marriage. Pregnancy is something has to be celebrated. Pregnant before marry is not a taboo. Because they don’t have marriage system but they have their own family system. The kids live with the mother’s family all their life.
Reproduction is the key to prosperous but the women are the key figure in fertility. Giving birth has to be set inside marriage system for easy control in Patriarchy society. And Affair outside marriage, pregnant before marry becomes the nightmare for modern women…)
The Muslim world is big and each Muslim country develops differently. Bouchra explained, ‘Saudi Arabia probably is the richest country because they have the most oil. But Saudi is the most conservative Muslim country. Signal woman can’t get a visa unless they accompany by their father or brothers or husband. Morocco probably is the most open Muslim country. Syria and Israel are in war…’
As for UAE, Bouchra said, ‘It’s rich because of oil. UAE just established 40+ years. They don’t have any history or culture. They just borrow from other countries. The whole nation is a big dream built up with money…’
Bouchra stops the car in the car park and we met her friend Hisham. Then we drive to Palm Island, to THE BEACH, dine in restaurant and even visit a traditional Arab candy shop. So fun! Thanks!
Hisham is an Egyptian. He was working in Oman 3 years ago and came to Dubai 5 months ago. He was major in translation in college and he is an English/Arab translator. His client included Johnsons and HSBC etc.
Hisham has brothers and sisters. He had opinions from family to get marry soon but not pressure. Egyptians has arranged ‘marry dating’ too but they don’t have to marry the dating guy/girl if they don’t want to.
Hisham said frankly, ‘I don’t want to get marry because it’s hard to buy an apartment. The properties price is high in Egypt. We can only BUY a wedding house because people will look down on you if we RENT a wedding house.’
All 3 of us went to an Egyptian restaurant. Super delicious. Hisham said, ‘I have to kill a sheep by myself for God when I was a kid. The fresh liver from a just-killed sheep tasted like mushroom…’
Haha, food is an international language!
Thanks so much, Bouchra and Hisham, it’s really nice to meet you!!