Dubai CS Host Bouchra

杜拜是阿聯酋最熱鬧的城市,也是我在歐洲的最後一站,CS Host Bouchra獨居靚屋,感謝她的招待,Bouchra是我最後一位歐洲Host,而我碰巧是Bouchra的第一位梳化客,我的最終,是Bouchra的最初,一始一終,一頭一尾,剛剛畫成一圓,真是完美句號啦。

 

Bouchra是摩洛哥美女,也是虔誠回教徒,我真心覺得她是IQ爆棚的資優生,她非常醒目、一點就明、舉一反三,她的老闆也深有同感,特地從摩洛哥將她挖角來杜拜,比埋地方住;Bouchra是大公司財務總監的助手,負責整理數字,弄成財政報表,匯報老闆。

 

感謝Bouchra駕着她的靚車,載我去玩,我們一邊聊天,一邊開車,Bouchra已經在杜拜待了一年半,她挺喜歡杜拜:「畢竟畢竟摩洛哥與阿聯酋都是回教國家,阿拉伯文相通,習慣相似。」

 

Bouchra是家中長女,下有一弟一妹,回教是父權家庭,她說:「摩洛哥從父姓,而我家是一脈單承,父親與弟弟都是家中獨子,現在弟弟(要結婚生子的)壓力山大……」

 

從車窗外望,杜拜很多高樓大廈;至於Bouchra自己,(當然)有被父母催婚,也真的要去相親,但可以拒絕不喜歡的相親對象;在我眼中,Bouchra自己能駕車,又有高薪厚職,完全能獨立自主,不過她很憧憬的說:「我希望結婚,我好渣,要一位男性來領導我,我仲想要小朋友添~」

我很吃驚,看着Bouchra輕鬆駕車、潚灑扭駄,我不明白為何Bouchra覺得自己「好渣」,還要「一位男性來領導」,明明她遠離家鄉,獨自在外打拼,機智、適應、耐力缺一不可,她應付得游刃有餘,完全不是「好渣」,明明自己一個已能獨立自主,為何會憧憬「一位男性來領導」、甘願受命於人??

我再追問:「但你有工作,有屋住,仲有錢,點解一定要結婚?」

Bouchra說:「但我想生孩子啊~丈夫大我十年就差不多啦~」

唔唔,雖說可以到精子銀行買貨,種族基因任揀,不過有丈夫(如果佢肯)分擔育兒重責,也是好的……

可能Bouchra說的「丈夫領導妻子」是回教普遍價值觀,實際未必「老公話哂事」,(希望係)有商有量、相敬如賓吧……

 

(容我離題,中國瀘沽湖的母系社會對生育/婚姻有很不同的理解,懷孕是喜事,未婚成孕不是禁忌,因為根本無{漢族所謂的}婚姻制度,孩子出生後與母系家族同住,終生不離家。繁衍是興旺關鍵,但女性才是生育主角,因此在父權社會中,需將生育置於婚姻框格內,以便控制。未婚媽媽、婚外情等現代女性夢魘可說是被父權社會「逼」出來的……)

 

在回教世界中,各國發展都不一樣,Bouchra解釋:「最有錢的回教國家應該是沙地阿拉伯,因為石油最多,沙地但也是最保守的國家,單身女子需有父/兄/夫陪同,否則不能單獨出國;而摩洛哥應該是回教世界中最開放的國家吧;敍利亞、以色列等,都在打仗……」

 

至於阿聯酋,Bouchra說:「因為石油,所以有錢,阿聯酋立國才四十多年,什麼文化歷史都無,都是借別國的,全國都是金錢堆砌出來的大幻夢……」

 

 

Bouchra把車停在停車場,會合埃及朋友Hisham,然後駕車帶我們經過棕櫚島,去了THE BEACH,上了餐廳,還去了傳統糖果店,好玩!感謝!

 

Hisham是埃及人,他三年前在阿曼工作,五個月前來到杜拜,他在大學主修翻譯,現在是英文/阿拉伯文翻譯員,客人有莊生、匯豐等;Hisham上有兄弟,下有姐妹,雖有催婚,但不緊迫,埃及也有相親,不喜歡相親對象也可拒絕,Hisham坦言:「我不太想結婚,因為難買樓,埃及樓價一樣爆高,我們結婚房子只能買,不能租,因為租結婚房好無面。」

 

我們三人一起去了埃及餐館,超好食,Hisham憶述:「我小時候要自己宰羊獻祭,剛殺的羊,肝臟即食,味道似磨菇。」

呵呵,美食無國界,謝謝Bouchra與Hisham,好開心識到你地!

 

 

Dubai is the busiest city in UAE. And it is my last stop in Europe.

My Dubai CS Host is Bouchra. She was living alone in a nice apartment in Dubai. Thanks for her hosting!

Bouchra is my last host in Europe and I was Bouchra’s first CS guest! My last is her beginning. What a prefect coincident!

 

Bouchra is a Morocco beauty and a faithful Muslim. She is a genius with high IQ. She is very smart and a fast learner. Not just I think she is smart and her BOSS thinks so too! The boss hires her from Morocco to Dubai, with housing!

Bouchra is the assistant to the CFO in a big company. She tidy up data and made into a report for the boss to review.

 

We go out sight-seeing in Bouchra’s car and we talk.

Bouchra has been in Dubai for one and a half year now. She likes Dubai, ‘Morocco and UAE are both Muslim country. We both use Arab and with similar custom,’

 

Bouchra is the eldest in family. She has one younger brother and one younger sister. Muslim is a Patriarchy society.

She said, ‘Our surname follow our father’s surname and my brother is the only son in my family. He has a high pressure on getting marry and have kids…’

 

I can see lots of tall buildings when I looked out the car window.

As for Bouchra, (of course) she has pressure to get marry soon. And she has to attend an arranged ‘Dating-for-marry’ but she doesn’t HAVE to marry the ‘dating guy’ if she doesn’t like him.

Bouchra is an independent strong woman in my eyes: she can drive; she has a decent job with good pay. But she said with yearning, ‘I hope to get marry soon. I am stupid. I NEED a man to guide me. And I want to have kids too~’

I am very surprised. I have no idea why Bouchra thinks she is ‘stupid’ and even ‘NEED A MAN TO GUIDE’ while she is smartly driving her car, going to places she wants to go by her own. She is far from home and working in a foreign country by herself. She is smart, adaptable and patience.

I ask again, ‘You have a job, an apartment and MONEY! Why do you HAVE TO marry?’

Bouchra says, ‘I want to have kids~it’s prefect if my husband is 10 years older than me~’

Ummmm, sperm can be bought in a sperm bank. With any race and DNA you can choose from…

But if a husband (if he is willing) can share the responsibility to raise a child. That’s good…

Bouchra’s ‘Husband lead wife’ maybe just a common expression in Muslim world. The husbands may not be in totally control in real practice. I hope Bouchra has a happy and respective marriage!

 

(Please excuse for my off-topic. Lugu Lake in China is a Matriarchal society. They have a very different understanding on Fertility and Marriage. Pregnancy is something has to be celebrated. Pregnant before marry is not a taboo. Because they don’t have marriage system but they have their own family system. The kids live with the mother’s family all their life.

Reproduction is the key to prosperous but the women are the key figure in fertility. Giving birth has to be set inside marriage system for easy control in Patriarchy society. And Affair outside marriage, pregnant before marry becomes the nightmare for modern women…)

 

The Muslim world is big and each Muslim country develops differently. Bouchra explained, ‘Saudi Arabia probably is the richest country because they have the most oil. But Saudi is the most conservative Muslim country. Signal woman can’t get a visa unless they accompany by their father or brothers or husband. Morocco probably is the most open Muslim country. Syria and Israel are in war…’

 

As for UAE, Bouchra said, ‘It’s rich because of oil. UAE just established 40+ years. They don’t have any history or culture. They just borrow from other countries. The whole nation is a big dream built up with money…’

 

 

Bouchra stops the car in the car park and we met her friend Hisham. Then we drive to Palm Island, to THE BEACH, dine in restaurant and even visit a traditional Arab candy shop. So fun! Thanks!

 

Hisham is an Egyptian. He was working in Oman 3 years ago and came to Dubai 5 months ago. He was major in translation in college and he is an English/Arab translator. His client included Johnsons and HSBC etc.

 

Hisham has brothers and sisters. He had opinions from family to get marry soon but not pressure. Egyptians has arranged ‘marry dating’ too but they don’t have to marry the dating guy/girl if they don’t want to.

Hisham said frankly, ‘I don’t want to get marry because it’s hard to buy an apartment. The properties price is high in Egypt. We can only BUY a wedding house because people will look down on you if we RENT a wedding house.’

 

All 3 of us went to an Egyptian restaurant. Super delicious. Hisham said, ‘I have to kill a sheep by myself for God when I was a kid. The fresh liver from a just-killed sheep tasted like mushroom…’

Haha, food is an international language!

Thanks so much, Bouchra and Hisham, it’s really nice to meet you!!

Bouchra
Bouchra
Hisham
Hisham
哂冷Yeah~
哂冷Yeah~
杜拜的家Home in Dubai
杜拜的家Home in Dubai
永遠在發展的城市An ever developing city
永遠在發展的城市An ever developing city

末世...(其實是日出)Doomsday...(actually it's sunrise)

日出!Sun Rise!
日出!Sun Rise!
Jumping Bouchra
Jumping Bouchra
日出~Sun rise~
日出~Sun rise~
逃走的太陽Escaping sun
逃走的太陽Escaping sun
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冰棍球大廈Ice Hockey Building
網球拍大廈Tennis Building
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